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Aiyo Rama Relatives ah 😫 

Hi readers, I hope you are all enjoying Surya bhagawan’s love filled extra “warmth” 😝😝😝😝 

Past 10 days, I’ve been dealing with several relatives and here are a few of them… 

#1- They talk about your personality… How ever good you look, they always find a fault… One of them told me the other day, “Omg! You’ve grown so tall… How and from where will we find you a suitor?” 

  Now what should I do, cut my feet ah, to get married?? My mother fed me Complan mixed with Horlicks , any problem for you ah?? Nonsense fellows! 

Similar shit they speak ya… If you are short, they will talk as if injecting you with pituitary hormone for height growth 😂😂😂😂 

#2 Traits- Genes- similarity… One of my relatives who might be my grandfather’s brother’s daughter said – out of shittily fake excitement – “heyyy.. waaaw… You are mixing up ghee with rice and eating… Just like me… See, even you are eating with right hand.. just like me… Let’s take a selfie, people will think you and I are mother and daughter… You have so many similarities to me.. “Oh maai gaawd… We are so alike… Same family na… Same genes… ”  

Oh yeah… So true… Even I walk with 4 limbs and eat like a monkey, may be in “our” genes 🐒 

Because of such relatives, you feel you’ve lost your originality 😥 sometimes, you even feel that may be you were given in adoption to your parents and that these relatives might’ve been your biological parents 😝😝 

#3- Analysts-judges-gossippers- I have a few aunties, who, no matter what occassion it is… Be it even a funeral, they will start their analysis , judge others and gossip… One of those aunties came to me and said “see this couple, they are 50+ yrs old… They have to get their daughter married, see how they are shamelessly going on couple trips.. instead they have to go to temples , do pariharams so that their daughter gets married… Hey wait, may be that girl has a boy friend that’s why she is also carefree, her parents are also roaming happily… Hmm… What family oh”  

Some people don’t care about the shit that’s on their head, they see someone’s bald head and laugh about it… Bleddy morons! Your head is stinking, go take a shower 😠😠


#4 Copycat Cousins- I have some cousins who copy me hardcore… Like the way I talk, my gestures… I have one cousin who copies me in almost all the ways 😂😂… If I wear a pink kurti, she wears a similar one, if I say some word, she catches it and uses it like some mantra… I bought a pair of Nike shoes(apparently coz of my gigantic personality, I had to take the unisex one), while she could get the ladies shoe in Nike, she insisted on taking the unisex model only…  😫 she copies the way I eat, she tries sleeping like I do… And she says that’s her style too… I mean! That’s ridiculous… How the hell can someone be me by wearing clothes like me ?? 

I am not so good to be copied dear, try copying someone else and leave me alone please 😥
Copycat, day by day, you are only becoming more fat 😝

#5  Comparison Kings and Queens- From the stupendous stats of stupid people , I found out that 75% of the relatives compare…  Aiyoyoyo! I ve had enough of them pa! They compare you with their children who are of your age or may be compare themselves with your parents and they even compare their pet dog’s poop with that of your pets… So much that you end up feeling your pet is a constipate 😥 . 

I’ve got enough of these people ya… They say shit like “hey see, my son is your age, he is married already… My neighbor’s daughter is your age, she is doing PhD in “Rambaford University” in USA’s cookgramam… Why are you still like this? 

See, people your age are doing higher studies, you also study… People your age are earning so much, you also earn like them, people your age are getting married, you also get married, people your age are becoming parents, you also plan for a child soon… 

People your age are dying, you also die ya! 😝😝😝

#6 Boaster-Big-big-talkers-Peethal mannans- These relatives no, aiyoyo, very very dangerous pa… They talk as if they are world achievers… As if they know everything, as if they own everything… They bleddy poke their dirty nose into your affairs and boast so much about themselves… One of my relative was once talking about coffee… So this boasting mama poked his biiig nose in between and was telling “aahn… Coffee means filter coffee only… My wife no, she walks in jet speed from Chennai to Coorg, gets fine coffee beans, roasts them well, powders them just by placing them in between her palms, brews the decoction from Ganga water crystal clear from the valley, mixes it with fresh desi cow milk which is thick like cream, adds fine sugar of Bodhan and serves it to me in silver tumbler…” 

By the time he finished it, there was none 😝😝😝 

Similarly, they talk as if their son is the next Sundar Pichai …( He is not even worth to be a roadside Pichai… That I know), their daughter is Atiloka sundari (monkeys will be more beautiful if they put make up ya, this one is even worse than monkey… Trust me)…. 

 

If you ever want to punish someone, tie their hands and legs and make them sit in a room, with these boaster relatives of yours… They will come out a changed leaf 😂

So, this is it for now folks,  about my relatives… If you ever relate your relatives to mine, bro-sis join the club 😂 

Cheers,

Meenu Iyer a.k.a Aarya 

Foodtrimony

Ellarukkum Namaskaram! Andariki Namaskaramu! Sabko Namashkar! Hello Everyone…. I am back with my “signature” post once again…

It has been very long- almost a year or may be more, since I have written something in my very own style… I asked my Akka- what to blog about. She and I were thinking a lot and nothing really struck our minds… Suddenly our Appa came up with some marriage alliance for my Akka and as we saw the profile, “Curd Rice” we said in chorus. Appa was wondering what is this “Curd Rice” . An idea struck, and here, I will enlighten you on what is the connection between food and marriage.

Past 4 years (we have successfully entered into the 5th year recently), in searching the potential match for my Akka (Now don’t ask me questions like “why so long” or shit like that Ok! We have our own reasons). Being the younger one in the house and also, me being the extra crazy and masaledar one, my parents, akka and everyone around me put that burden of shortlisting groom’s profiles for my akka…. For a very long time I hated this job (I still do 😦 ), but then came a ray of hope when I started classifying the matrimony profiles into food varieties. This not only applies to the potential grooms but also to the brides who have made their way into the matrimony sites.

#1: Fruits:
These are the type of guys and girls whose matrimony pictures are photoshopped with blue/green Velvettish background.  Ususally, their profiles have pages and pages of descriptions about their family-ancestry-even to early man times…. They tell every damn detail about the guy/girl’s spiritual side( One mama even wrote how his 35 yr old son does Pooja for 3 hours a day and all that).
While the guys pose for pictures with clean shaven faces in a veshti teamed up with a kurta with vibhuti pattai/kumkumam or thirumaan-srichurnam – standing stiff with both their hands resting under their belly which pouts out a little. The girls pose with a humble  sober-pink or blue or a dull coloured chudidar or a simple dull chiffon saree, long braided hair with flowers (they do this to show off how long their hair is-to let the other girls to envy them >_<  )  with a nice big bottu and some vibhuti or kumkumam on their forehead, adorning medium sized jimikis  on their ears, a thin chain around their neck, a nose pin on the right side of the nose, dull-gold or plastic bangles matching to their dress (same hands resting under the belly pose only) and a smile like Monalisa- Revealing their strong, deep rooted traditional values in the picture itself (So much that you feel like building a temple for them and do archanai to them).

#2 Pulihara/Upma:

This type of girls and guys are those who are equally excited about their marriage, like their parents and relatives are. They are the type of people whose matrimony account is accessed by their relatives also. They post varieties of pictures taken at random functions, festivals, weddings – well dressed in jigu jigu party clothes  (so much that you will be wondering who the groom/bride is-sometimes they wear goggles also-unbearable that is). Various selfies with cousins, relatives, friends and family. These people are of the expectant type. More than them or their parents, their relatives rule over the matrimony scenario. These people expect their relatives to do the work of marriage broker for them.
They also, like the ones in the prev. category , write pages and pages of family history, spirituality, qualifications and all that of the girl/guy).

#3 Sambhar Rice:

These guys and girls are often aged between 24-30, whose profiles have descriptions like “My son/daughter is a simple, home loving-jovial and God fearing person. We are a close knit family of 4. Our son/daughter is a very loving person who is 60% traditional and 40% modern. We have our own house in Chennai. We won’t treat our son-in-law / daughter-in-law like one, but as our own child born from a different parent. We need a fair and handsome/beautiful match for our innocent yet smart child(generally the guy is bald headed). If you like , then please send interest and we will contact you” 

They have a picture clicked in every possible dress and angle- One in Traditional, one in casual, one in formal, one in office,one in hotel, one in a marriage, one with family, one with friends etc….They often mention about their wealth and boast about themselves in every possible way.
These people also, like the previous category of people, are some sort of dependant on their relatives for marriage brokerage.

#4 Biryani: 

These guys and girls are simple, decently qualified, earning good and well settled people with the right blend of present day trend and traditional values. They post a simple picture of theirs, never boast much to sell themselves in the marriage market. They basically have no intention to sell themselves at all. My type of people 😉 .

#5 Chicken Biryani:

These guys and girls are like the above but a little extra casual than the latter. They reveal themselves a little more(sometimes even about their crushes or prev-relationship). They even post pictures in pyjamas and t shirts, selfies clicked early morning even before brushing, selfies kissing their pet or something like that. These people are sometimes a little classy too.  They hold more of present day trends than the traditional values that they hold.

#6 Curd Rice:

These guys and girls are those who seem to be very disinterested towards life. All their profile pictures reveal a neutral expression. While the picture is such, the words written about them are totally the opposite (Generally they write that they are fun-loving and jovial etc). You just can’t tell anything about these people, just like by looking at the curd rice or even smelling it, you cant tell if it is tasting good or it is sour. These people leave you in a fix.

#7 Soups-Salad-Pasta-Garlic Breads:

The NRI guys and girls, who look out only for NRI partners. This category also include the ones in India, who post pictures sitting on their office desks, dressed in formals, generally with an intention to show off how corporate-ish they are 😛 . I need not go in detail about these people,  their pictures or profiles. 60% of the matrimony sites are filled with these profiles only.

#8 Ladies Fingers:  These are the girls who leave you in a fix whether to marry or not, talking about feminism (pseudo feminism ok!) inspired by FB posts about the girls who think feminism is their right to drink, smoke, party and do all shit like that.

#9 Hippos: These are the guys who feel that men are the superior most gender and that they can do anything they want- like party-drink-smoke-do drugs- be a play boy but expect to marry a girl like shudh desi ghee- pure and untouched.

#10 Junkies: These are those people who talk a lot but do nothing. Their profiles seem to be very very attractive and lively but in reality, they don’t even smile. Their biggest laugh would be a small grin.

So folks! I hope now you know how to classify your potential partner and choose them wisely, based on which one of the above categories you fall into…

Cheers,

Meenu Iyer a.k.a Aarya 😉

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ChithLith

It was 7:00 am and Lalith sped his Activa, to Barkatpura Hanuman temple to meet Manognya, for one last time. He was struck in the unusual traffic and had to travel 9km more.

Few Years ago:

Chitra, how is the guy? Show his picture na…
Chitra’s was the next wedding in the group of 5 friends.  First it was Varsha’s and now Chitra’s.
He looks nice… But you just finished your MBA and got placed. Why wedding and all now only? You can work for some time yaar… What’s the hurry?
My parents’ decision is the final one… He is earning good, well settled and also goes on-site once in a while… Chalega yaar… He seems to be a nice guy…
Achaaa…. Pyaar ho gaya tereko? Itna sharma mat re… save some for the day of your marriage too..
Chal-Paagal! 😛

Chitra was a 22 year old girl from Hyderabad, who graduated from Osmania University with a Gold Medal in Strategic Management and was placed in a leading consulting firm in Pune, but life had a very different package for her- Her wedding was fixed to Lalith, a 25 year old Techie, based at Chennai.

Chitra and Lalith were engaged and with 3-4 months of courtship, they got married.

Chitra, what are you doing?
Hmm… Lalith, can you help me out with a Job somewhere? I am getting bored sitting home all day….
You can join some hobby classes instead Chitra… We have a big house, a two wheeler and a four wheeler and I have a good bank balance… I am earning well right? I don’t want you to work Chitra….
But…Lalith…
No more ‘ifs’ or ‘buts’ Chitra… Give me that Tab…I will look out for the best hobby class for you somewhere nearby….

Chitra enrolled herself in Music and Cooking classes… She improved her vocal skills and also learnt ways to cook like a pro.

6 months passed and one evening, when Lalith was back home, a surprise awaited him….
Lalith….Lalith… guess what??? Chitra was at the peak of her excitement…
What is it dear? 
Fresh up and come soon… I will tell it during dinner… 

Lalith wondered at the child-like excitement of Chitra and rushed to the table as soon as possible.
At the dinner table, Chitra placed 2 big plates, water glasses and a tiny plate and glass of water… She looked at her husband and smiled shyly…
What is it Chitra??
Did you not understand?  One plate for you, one for me and the other for our Little one… We are going to be parents Lalith!!!!! 😀 😀 😀 😀
Whaaat!!!! Oh My God!!! Am I going to be Appa!!!! 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 I am so happy today!!! 
Yessss… We are going to be parents soon…
Why din’t you tell it to me immediately??
I wanted to surprise you…..
But I think I am the last one to know this!
No, I haven’t told it to anyone…. I will tell it to Amma-Appa and my Parents tomorrow…
I thought that you’d have told it to everyone by this time!
I am not so stupid Lalith… Why would I?
I didn’t mean it that way! Don’t take it the other way round…
Fine… Good night.. 😦
I am going out… I’ll be back in an hour! 

Sometime later….
Chitra…come here… to the table…
Ice Cream? 
Sure… 😀 That small cup, the two of us will share, ok?

In the course of 9 months, Chitra delivered a baby girl. The couple named her Manognya.
Chitra, left to Chennai when baby Manognya turned 5 months old…

Manognya turned 10 months old… Life was very hectic for Lalith… He never had time for his wife or child… He worked even on weekends… Chitra never complained a bit about Lalith’s carelessness and never showed it out on days when their infant was suffering with high fever. She knew that the recession had hit the Indian market and everyone, with a fear of losing their jobs and to meet expenses, worked harder every day.
She knew it all…
One evening Lalith came home dejected. He kicked his shoes hard that they flew and fell at the Kitchen door. He sat on the sofa and hung his head down, covering his face with both his palms. Chitra did not understand what went wrong with her husband… She left him alone for sometime.
Lalith, coffee…
Lalith uncovered his face, with his eyes red and teary…
Chitra, I lost my job Chitra… They fired me from my Job… I was one among the 40 employees… Many of them requested the Manager and have started flattering and serving him like a slave to get back their jobs… I cannot do that… 
Lalith cried covering his face, lying on Chitra’s lap

It’s alright Lalith… We will find a solution for this… Don’t cry…

Lalith tried his best to get a job, all his efforts went in vain… It was very difficult for him manage the finances.
I want to celebrate Manognya’s first birthday with pomp… Amma and Appa are telling that they will bear the expenses… I am a very bad father Chitra… I am unable to celebrate my daughter’s birthday also… I had so may plans…  I don’t want to ask my parents for it…

Lalith, it is just a birthday.. We will do a small pooja and do a celebration within the house… Next year, we will throw a big party.. Don’t you worry…

As per Chitra’s wishes, they performed a pooja for the Child’s well being and did a small celebration within the house.

Lalith, tomorrow I am having an interview… Can you drop me at the Office please?
What! You never told me that you were looking out for jobs… If you get a job who will take care of our child? Have you gone out of your brain?
I’ll explain… See, it is a 9-5 job, till the time I come back, Manognya will be taken care off by my mother… I told amma about our situation.. She said she will be here…
Oh! so you told your mother that her son-in-law was thrown out of his job and is jobless eh?
No Lalith, nothing like that.. I just explained that the situation is not so good and that I need to get back to work….
Ok! Who will bear her stay’s expenses here?
I have saved a little, Appa said he will give me some money for Amma’s stay… Please agree to this Lalith…. see, it is alright… The job market for Software engineers is very tough, but not for Management grads… I am a MBA, I am almost selected in that company… Just the last round tomorrow and I will bag a very good job…
Oh! So it came to the extent of your Appa sending money to bear our expenses ah?  You are showing off that you are better qualified than me eh??
Lalith why are you talking like this?
Chitra, are you trying to insult me in front of your family?  Look, I am joining classes for MBA from tomorrow and I cannot drop you at the office… I am not going to take care of Manognya as well… I saved money for my studies and I am going to do that… You hell with your work!
Lalith, how can you be so selfish?
Don’t ever think you can dominate me!
Fine!

Chitra bagged the job and silently paid for the house expenses.
Lalith and Chitra were not in good terms with each other… They fought almost everyday…

One day,
Lalith, how dare you call my father and shout at him?
Why don’t you ask him the reason, yourself!
Appa just suggested you to work and study later….Need of the moment is money, not studies…
His talks were not in a suggestive tone… He indirectly poked at me that I was thrown out of my job and I am now eating your money!
Why do you take it that way?
Your father did speak that way…And you don’t try to suppress me… I know you don’t want me to study further… you want to dominate me with your money… Remember that I will not bow my head to anyone!
You have gone out of your mind Lalith! I am not dominating you… I am just helping you meet the expenses…nothing more… My father educated me so that my studies would be of some help at times like these…
Oh! so now you are telling that my father did not educate me more eh? you are such a bitch and your father is a retard!
Lalith, unmindful of Manognya playing there, stumbled upon her toy car and fell down on Little Manognya . Manognya’s head hit the floor hard and in few seconds the floor was filled with the infant’s blood… She lay there unconscious… Chitra picked her dying child and rushed to the Hospital….
Lalith went to the hospital and found Chitra crying silently in the corner of the Operation Theatre.
Chitra…Chitra…
Don’t you dare come near me… You mad man! My child! What did she do to you? You went to an extent to kill her!! You are a useless guy, filled with nothing but EGO!!! You Psycho!

Lalith walked out of the place angrily…

A week later, Chitra, along with Manognya and her Father, went to Hyderabad and got her child treated there for the wounds… It took a lot of time for Manognya’s wounds to heal… Meanwhile, Chitra joined in the consultancy firm, which offered her a job long back, when she graduated.

Lalith joined ISB-Hyderabad, for his further studies, after applying for a divorce with Chitra on mutual consent.

Hello, Chitra… I want to see my child once… We have the last hearing the day after tomorrow… Before that I want to see Manognya…Please…
Fine, come to Barkatpura Hanuman Temple on Saturday at 8:00 am sharp.. Not a minute here or there…
Ok! I will be there…

Chitra dressed up Manognya in a white T-shirt and grey floral shorts…
It was 7:30 am and Chitra, along with her daughter, left to the temple.

Lalith reached Barkatpura late, at 8:30 am… He carried with him a backpack in which he bought a lot of toys, chocolates and clothes for his daughter. He was worried about the time and ran along the long corridor, pushing people aside. He searched for Chitra all over and did not find her…
Chitra must have left.. I was late… No problem, I will pray and go atleast…
With hands held and eyes closed tight, he mumbled a prayer in front of Hanuman.
Few drops of tears fell from his face…
Appa… Appa… A little girl tapped Lalith’s leg…
She wore a white T-shirt with a picture of Lalith holding a baby , on which “Appa’s little Girl” was written in bold letters…
Manognya…. He said, as he lifted the 3 year old child and kissed her… He ran his hand through Manognya’s head. As he felt the stitch marks on her head , he cried out louder.
Lalith saw that the child resembled him a lot… Every time Manognya called him ‘Appa’, his heart skipped a beat… Chitra saw it all in hiding…
Can I take my child back?
Chitra, please don’t say that… I need you and Manognya back.. Please… He cried like a baby, covering his face with both his palms… He fell on his knees, feeling guilty of his actions…
Chitra… I am very sorry… I shouldn’t have done that to you… I don’t want you to leave me Chitra… I am extremely sorry for all my past actions… I missed you each day… That Divorce, I filed it out of my Ego… Today, I stand here, all alone.. like an orphan… My parents are no more talking to me… I have no friends… I am all alone…. My EGO killed the human in me… I know, sorry is not enough to heal all the wounds I caused to you and Manognya…. I have taken back the case yesterday Chitra… I will take care of you and Manognya from now on… you can go for work, you can run your own business or do anything you please…. But please don’t leave me like this… I will apologise to your parents…. Please don’t leave me Chitra….
I have a MBA degree, I bagged a 24 LPA job… what is the use of all these when I don’t have anyone by me? Chitra, please be mine… I want the two of you….
Chitra sat down and hugged Lalith, who cried like a baby…
It is alright Lalith… I am sorry to have shouted at you in the Hospital… Let us not think about this anymore…. Come, let’s go for an ice cream and then start afresh…

All it takes is a little bit of understanding, situational motivation and a lot of love to live…

 

P.S. This is based on a true story of my friend, who is my middle-school senior,  who asked me to write his story and make him famous (I have changed the names upon his wife’s request).

 

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Life at 25

This noon, I was sitting in a corner of my room-silently sipping tea and tickling my thoughts.. In the process, I realised that in a month or may be 23-22 days, I am turning 25… I felt like a reel with subtitles being re-wound and played through my head…. Here’s the gist and thoughts of mine 🙂

#1 Goals:

10 years ago exactly, I pictured myself driving my own Navy blue car- I always wanted to drive a Ford car, don’t know why, but it did and it still does fascinate me-sometimes. I had many a goals… May be, I will just laugh at them now…  I never knew what career was way back then… The only thing I knew closely was Food/Lunch Carrier (I did not know the spelling also 😛 ).
I sometimes said I’d be a Doctor, to some- a Lawyer, to some more- a Scientist… None of these have ever neither come to me on a piece of paper as a degree, nor have I practised any of them… I felt crushed for a moment, coz most of those my age were pursuing or have already pursued their goals…
I may not have reached any goals that I had set for myself.. I know I did not even buy a toy-remote car for myself…

I realised that all these years I’ve not been setting any goals for myself , but I have only built Castles in air…
But then, I justified myself; Though I did not get a degree or certificate in the above three mentioned streams, I have been a Doctor to many pained and troubled hearts that wanted to be healed 🙂 . I have been a Lawyer and stood for myself at many a places… Though many of those who claim to know me well may not consider this, well, I have been there for myself always and have argued not just with others and their perceptions & opinions, but also to myself-my thoughts… Coming to being a scientist- researching – innovating-creating stories and entertaining my readers has made me a scientist too 😀 .
Career wise, I am still going with the flow… I am loving the work I am doing… As long as I am satisfied with the work I am doing, I am happy and I feel that I need not convince anyone by simply lying about doing big things or build fake expectations about myself to anyone, for, I know, in the flow, things will just happen… I need not really run behind it, just the right efforts are enough 🙂

#2 World’s Elasticity: 

The transition from a teenager to an adult seems like a blink of an eye-lid now… All these years, there have been several ups and downs…
There have been days when I’ve felt very happy, laughed till my tummy muscles stretched and ached… Time never bothered at all… It just passed off so soon…

There have been days when I’ve whined, curled, cried and shouted till my throat tore apart…. I have vented anger silently, sobbed with a smile on, masked all my feelings. All these days of sadness felt longer…Each day, I eagerly awaited to smile even under the mask… I wanted to remove the smiley mask and smile for real…

When I met people whom I never wanted to be a part of my life actually came into it, I always felt that the World is a small place, populated with morons…

When I am in search of that one “special” person, I now feel that the World is so large and each day,it is stretching miles and miles longer…

With a collection of Paradoxes, I now understand that,  People walk-in and out of our lives, Situations arise and fall teaching us many lessons… It is we who must be well aware of the lessons taught by people, situations and feelings. Making ourselves aware of this Elasticity of Infinity and prepare ourselves to remain Neutral to everything-be it any Ups or Downs.

#3 Achievements:

I see a lot of my classmates, friends and cousins post their achievements very proudly… I see my fellow 25 yr old’s reach stars already in various fields… I see people posting their pictures and status on the social media stating their achievements… Someone telling that he is heading for a 3rd Masters Degree, some one telling she opened her own boutique, someone or the other in some corner of the world , everyday, is achieving something or the other…someone else is struggling to achieve what the other person has achieved.
For some, achievement is in career, for some-in family, for some-in the public…
While someone in some corner is achieving something, accomplishing some or the other task, I feel, I am not a part of that corner of the World… Coz, my World is a Circle and it has no Corners at all 🙂
Living and surviving all these years is the greatest achievement… Every breath, every heartbeat counts… Isn’t that one of the greatest of achievements???

“Living this moment is an achievement, rest all are just  accomplishment of minor tasks” 😉

#4 Earnings:

5 years ago, I pictured myself heading a Team of professionals, earning not less than 12 L.P.A… Then, as days passed, I saw my friends, classmates and cousins either earning more than me or struggling to equate my salary..
Days passed… Several situations of several people made me realise a lot…
When you are thirsty in a Desert, you can’t drink money. When there is an earthquake and your millions worth bungalow is all damaged, even a hut made of bark seems like heaven. When loneliness hits you hard, money cannot buy you love.
Money can buy you only materials, never Love…
All these 25 years of my life, I have Earned a lot of love, affection and care from a few people- if not the world as a whole 🙂
Money, wealth, luxuries are short lived, when you die, even your name and fame dies with you- if not immediately, after a few years it will-coz you will be succeeded by someone for sure… All that remains are the memories of yours, with your loved ones-all the love that you gave and that what you got from your people… Live a Life worthy living- not just for yourself but even for others-That is where you will make a difference-Be a legend” 

#5 Learning: 

Learning for me has always been learning a new subject in school/college, write exams and fare them with some good grade…
Later, after years-Today, I figure out that I have learned a lot from every smile, tear drop, loudest of laughter, silence of words and anger that has been vented…
As most of us talk, we have either talked about our greatness or have criticised someone… Because of these acts, we have and still do, lose people from our lives…. In order to show the world that “I too am sustaining”, we are trying to superiorize ourselves to others.
I see a child locked up in every individual- locked up and buried deep inside with thick and big walls of EGO. That child who is crying and pleading us for freedom…. That child who is feeling unjust within us, for doing those actions that are not liked by him/her… We are all bottling up many of our emotions, trying to prove ourselves to the World… Trust me, World is never asking you to prove anything… Everyone, is in some or the other way facing some or the other problem and every child in every grown up individual is crying for freedom from falseness.

For once, I learned that I have to let out my inner child, regain that innocence and accept everyone the way they are, correcting myself and expanding my Circle to give space for everyone to stay in, expanding my Circle’s boundaries, vast enough.

If you bind your book called Life, with the thread called Love, this World would be the most peaceful place to live in” 

My learning never ends here, it is a journey that stretches infinite miles long 🙂

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Love & Cheers,
Meenu Iyer A.k.a Aarya

Disturb your Loved ones – Express it out!

Hello Readers!

Long time… I know… It has been really long I have blogged some sense too… Well, all these days I was held up with various things…  Right from my studies to work to personal life… It was all hectic 🙂 .  Now that I’ve found a lot of time to write, I wish to write something that I’ve learnt in the process of “living” all these years… “Survival” is totally different than “Living” and I understood the difference on the go of so many years… Let us see if most of us are “Surviving” or “Living” .

It all started with a text message, way back in 2008, ” You are a wonderful person and you do mean a lot to me Zubin, you have always been there for my help, how would I forget you after Intermediate?” which I typed in fluke to one of my class mates in the college and he still sticks to it and stands as a very good friend of mine. Initially, I thought he was trying to flirt with me whenever he ran for my help, even for the silliest of things, but then, recently, when he met me with his wife, he told her ” Farah! see, she is that friend who made me feel so good with her words…Had she not texted me that day telling that I am a wonderful person, I wouldn’t be who I am now… Her words meant a lot to me that day when I felt used up by my friends… She was the only one among all of them who spoke such soothing words to me… It did work well on me… I was so stupid that I went to an extent of ending my life for nothing… I felt that my survival meant nothing but then came her text, and today, I am a doctor-Saving many a lives!!”
I did not know that one message actually is saving many a lives today… It was totally un-intentional.. I thought Zubin got emotional coz we were all going to finish our intermediate education and were going to part our ways soon… I never knew that there was so much to it… I smiled and went back to a few more such instances where some people made my life worth “Living” .

One such instance is when I cleared my Accounts exam, in the final semester of my MBA… I had failed terribly for 5 times. This time- I passed!! I called up to my parents, sister and a few of my well wishers, to tell that I was now a Post Graduate. Their responses were all the usual wishes and “I am so happy for you” , “You did it-finally” kind of ones… I straightaway went to my Best Friend’s place to convey the good news… Though I had already conveyed the news to her over phone, when I went to her house, I saw the happiness and achievement in her eyes… She felt like she achieved something, that Pride filled happiness was so much visible on her face… She laughed her heart off and finally, she said “Hey, let me take a Selfie with you… You are an MBA now and it is no big joke… After your MBA, the first ever selfie you are taking is with me, remember that!”  That moment, I literally had tears in my eyes but I could not express myself… I felt that my hard-work was totally justified… My bestie did not tell any words… She very well expressed her happiness for me.. Infact, she was more proud of me than I being proud of myself for passing the exam… Though it was a simple gesture, it did mean a lot to me, it still does…

Similarly, many a instances have occurred in my life due to many people and to many people because of me, where both- the person/people and I have felt that “This life of mine is worth living” 

Most of the time, many of us don’t express it out to our loved ones.. Be it our parents, our siblings or our friends or colleagues… I know it is difficult to express out how we are grateful to someone, but at some point (the sooner you say, the better it is), express…  Every now and then, when you are speaking to someone or when you are with someone, speak about what good they did to you and how you are thankful for it…
It need not be a big speech… It can be a simple gesture like a smile or may be a nod.
May be you can tell how much your friend means to you, with a small gift, a small note on their birthday, or may be a greeting card  or a simple text message sometime, when they never expect it coming from you. 🙂
To your parents, gratitude would be a very small word, hence, the best gesture you can show is giving them your time… May be 30 min… We have a lot of time for social media and friends, but not to our parents/family. The best ever thing to express how much you love your family and how much you care for them is to give them some of your time everyday… I don’t see any harm in giving an hour’s time to my parents and sis, every evening after a hectic day at work.

I may not be qualified to speak on how to express love to your spouse or gf/bf… All I can say is, there is more to show your love to them rather than just telling “I Love You”-cinematically… I always laugh when some one says I Love You to their spouse or gf/bf… It is as stupid as that.. I don’t understand why should some one tell it always when they are actually together because love is the one that binds them. There are many more things to express love to your other half is what I feel… As I already mentioned that I am not qualified enough for this now, I will slowly but surely decipher better ways to express 😛

Remember one thing friends, most of us must have felt good and worthy of living our lives, when we are appreciated, when we feel loved by others and when someone praises us and our work… More than anything, we personally feel good when someone lends their ears to us, without judging us, even a bit, without offering any sort of solution but calmly assuring that they are with us, we literally feel on cloud9… So it is, with others… With smallest of gestures or may be smoothest of words, we could make some one else’s life worth living.. .May be a word or two, may be someone out there needs more than a pair of ears- a heart to understand, a heart to empathise, a shoulder to lean on, a calm yet strong assurance that they have someone by them… May be your simple smile can brighten someone’s day.. May be your simple text message with some soothing words can make a person change to a whole new person… You just don’t know…
Most of us think that the other person is busy in their life and it is not just right to disturb them with a phone call or a message… Trust me, this is just a myth!

  • If you feel you need some help, don’t ever hesitate to ask… Be it even at the mid of night, feel free to disturb them and ask for help – This way, they too will feel free to approach you when you are needed…
  • Tell the person how much their presence in your life has impacted you, make them feel good and worthy… They will do even more than before… Don’t mistake this for flattering.. Be honest and tell them the truth..
  • It is always better to express gratitude to the person immediately, it need not be a simple thanks… It can be a small gift, a note, a FB post, or a simple text message…
  • Build trust in people’s heart that you are always there for them, they will also do the same to you…
  • Call your friends once or twice a week and text them everyday. Appreciate them humorously or simply tag them on any random post on FB so that they comment on it and you can have a good chat with them and constantly be in touch with them.
  • Above everything, lend your time to people around you, give them wholehearted attention coz sometimes all that a person may need is a heart that silently listens and ensures them to stay strong and fight their odds…

Remember something Friends, all of us are Humans…at some point of life, we do crave for the need to be appreciated, loved and cheered… Just like how someone helps us feel good, it is also our duty to fulfil their needs as well… Remember that people keep coming and going in our life to teach us something, to make us feel worthy and worthless as well… We often sit and waste our time in judging and assuming things about others… Why not for once, we think only good and send good vibes to all those around us… It will surely reflect back to us some day… Let us not expect it, but there is nothing wrong in making someone “Live” rather than just “Survive” … All of us would be animals if we solely depend on water, food and air for our survival… We, as Humans need more – We need Emotional connection, may be that is why we have an extra sense and we are made special by God… We can talk… Lets make great use of these senses.

There is no harm in making the ones around you feel special by disturbing them with messages or calls or making your presence being felt by them at the right time 🙂

 

Cheers,
Meenakshi Iyer a.k.a Aarya

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